Be Yourself and Happy!

Throughout my life it seems I always want people to be happy and therefore I do things to please. Lately, I have realized that am not making myself happy because mostly, it’s all about other people. As I get older, I stop looking to please everybody else. I no longer care what they think of me although sometimes I'm still afraid of making decision on simplest things just because I think of others' opinion more than my own judgement. I often think whether they will like it or not. Yes, I am still learning and exploring at the same time. Life is a long journey to walk, and hundreds of problems need to be solved. Therefore, we need to look at positive side of things.

"By letting it go... it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try... the world is beyond winning." - Lao Tzu

Just be yourself, you are the only lucky enough to know because you are amazing just the way you are!

10 Things you should give up to be happy:

1.   Give up your need to always be right.

2.   Give up your need for control.

3.   Give up blame.

4.   Give up your self-defeating self-talk, and your limiting beliefs.

5.   Give up complaining.

6.   Give up your need to impress others.

7.   Give up your resistance to change.

8.   Give up your fears.

9.   Give up your excuses.

10. Give up on living your life to fit other peoples’ expectations.

  

I'm learning not to sweat the small stuff. This past years have been about finding strength within myself - not looking for it in others. I try to be a good person and be nice and kind, though it's a work in progress but I am getting there because I realized that sweating the small stuff is the problem. I now let go of things that don't make me happy and start looking towards achieving goals and just live one day at time.

Kristin Neff, Ph.D., says that it’s time to “stop beating yourself up and leave insecurity behind.” Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind offers expert advice on how to limit self-criticism and offset its negative effects, enabling you to achieve your highest potential and a more contented, fulfilled life.

Be kind to yourself. Stop telling yourself that whatever you are struggling with 'should' be easy. If something is hard for you, it is hard for you. There are probably reasons, though for some people may just be how they think. People are wired differently. Acknowledge these things. When you finish something hard, be proud! Celebrate a little. And really, just stop saying 'should' to yourself about your thoughts and feelings in any context. You feel how you feel. The things in your head are the things in your head. You can’t change either directly through sheer force of will. You can only change what you do. Stop beating yourself up for who and what you are right now -- it isn’t productive. Focus on moving forward.

It’s time to “stop beating yourself up and leave insecurity behind!“